I see this site mentioned a lot and forgive my ignorance, but how in the hell does one have an affair using a site like this. They claim all rights to your material, including your picture, and reserve the right to use your material as they wish. So your picture could end up in a lot of places. Who would put a face shot on such a site if they were trying to be discreet. And then they charge a (Large) fee for their services. Would I not be holding up a sign for my wife if I went out and used my credit card for this site. Or wrote a check. Aren't affairs supposed be done secretly and aren't you supposed to leave no trial.
I don't even know how people get away with text messaging and sending pictures back and forth on their phones. Can you say Tiger Woods? Secret and maybe even anonymous email seems the only safe way to communicate, and even then you better clean you cashes, cookies and temporary internet files. Thank God for the incognito window in Google's browser.
Call me a novice and an inexperienced, likely to someday be a cheating husband. But some of this seems like we might as well slap the Idiots Guide to Having an Affair on the coffee table while we tell our spouses that we love them and they are the only one for us.
Now the site might work great, once you have secretly set up your own bank account, found a place to hide that checkbook or credit card and explained why your paycheck is short every month or so. I want it to work, because Craigslist is useless!!!
I want to hear from anyone that is married and uses the site for their secret affairs. How do you do it? Any luck? Really!?!?
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I want to thank you for posting the comments on my blog. You really have me thinking about how foolish I am to think that using my cell-phone is only “my personal secret”. Which is why I do believe the “truth is never far away”. One day my so called in-coming secret text, pictures, will come to the light. I will be busted! It will be that one time when a text will come in at the wrong time. I know that there will be more unexpected request for the usage of my personal cell. Yes…it terrifies me! However, there is some part of me that doesn't care, wants the truth to get out. Tired of living the lies! I often think to myself, in the end, judgment day? I’m terrified to know that part of my less than perfect marriage has existed in lies.
ReplyDeleteThanks again for slapping me in the face with reality.
Meagan
Great to hear back from you Meagan. Sorry for the "slap in the face", that's not usually my style (unless you ask and even then I prefer to smack your ass). I can totally relate to the feeling of wanting to get caught. It would be a short period of terror and embarassment and then transition either to a new understanding in one's marriage, or the end of if. Once it was all over and dealt with, who knows where life would take us, knowing what we know now about ourselves. I could write an entire blog about why I don't just end my marriage. Few who are not where we find ourselves can truely relate and therefore understand. I think these blogs are wonderfully self theraputic. In a week of reading the blogs of cheating women and men, I feel more clarity and understanding. At least here I talk to someone about my thoughts on the subject. A subject I don't even share with my therapist (who is totally hot and therefore probably only counter-productive, but she is sweet and good at her job. I'll have to write more about her!). Actually my therapist and I do talk about what has changed in my marriage and what would bring me happiness. I haven't told her though, that long before I ever married, before I ever met my wife, I knew on some level, monogamy was not going to work for me.
ReplyDeleteBe well Meagan. Stay safe. And keep writing for us all.
-Oz